How do people become popular in their social circle?

I am very intrested in social science and was just wondering what makes people more popular than others. Is it the aspect of Karma, e.g doing good things for others, self confidence or just being funny? best answer will be givenHow do people become popular in their social circle?
There's a fantastic, interesting book about this kind of thing called 'The Social Psychology of Everyday Life' by Michael Argyle. Hard to find, but worth it. Really interesting, whether you're studying social science or not.



From what I remember, he states that a big part of popularity is self disclosure, ie: telling people about yourself and your day to day life. The less private you are, the more popular you'll be. This really surprised me when I read it, because who likes people who talk about themselves all the time? Then I started looking at my own friends, colleagues and family, and sure enough, the most popular ones were the ones who gave everyone plenty of information about themselves.
say the popular things

wear the popular clothes

date the popular people

sing the popular songs



OR



be yourself

have a sense of humor

have a "comfortable confidence"

stateyour opinion, even if it conflicts with the group mentality, and state why you feel you ideas are important to you. everyone respects a rebel with a cause.How do people become popular in their social circle?
You can become popular in your social circle if you are a people person. This can be pretty hard since you have to try to be everyone's friend, which can be pretty gay(I know so). I have around 10 best friends, but it can be pretty hard to make time for all of them. Just try a little hard and at least stick up for yourself most of the time, and don't lose yourself.How do people become popular in their social circle?
Popular people from what I have found often become popular when they try to fit in with a certain fad. They give up themselves for what they believe is cool and shun all the individuals. Popular people are the biggest posers. I know most of you probably agree with me.
beauty

what they can do (skills, hobbies, etc)